09 December (2017)
A 21st Birthday does not only commemorates the person becoming a year older – and naturally assuming – a year wiser, but also one’s coming of age, in which one becomes a true adult in the modern sense, shedding child-like characteristics and having to face the realities of the real world, and stepping into society on one’s own.
I find celebrating birthdays a joyous and meaningful occasion, because it is the birth of the ones who are close to you, that actually shapes your life experience. It is his/her birth 21 years ago, which actually made getting to know him/her a possibility, thus allowing for friendships to even start in the first place.
Friendships, to me, are probably the most important possessions in this world, aside from kinship (which I had always taken as a given).
It is, what one has to be sincere to build, to be true to strengthen, to be dedicated to maintain.
The drifting apart of old (and formerly close) friends is a crisis, the end of a true friendship is a tragedy, while the fading away of friendship is a slow and painful process of death.
Despite having drifted apart from some of my closer classmates in primary school and high school, there are those tenacious ones which have weathered through years of intermittent contact, parting of ways in academic pursuits, and expansion of social circles.
I am fortunate to have such friendships, and I am determined to protect them at all costs.
My closest homies from HI school (almost are sisters rather than bros) has all turned legal this year (the last one to turn 21 with effective from this very day as I write).
They say your secondary school friends would be your closest friends for life, and a friendship of more than 7 years will last a lifetime. I have always believed in this saying, and this is probably the first of what keeps me going in the face of adversity, knowing that the very friends I cherish would always be with me, no matter where we are, what we are doing, or how old we may be.
As we start our 21st year of life on Earth, I wish my homie’s today (you-know-who) a Happy 21st Birthday.
May 2018 be a year of more wonderful birthdays and better friendships!!